I was rummaging through some old draft posts this morning and came across this..
"Today has been a tricky day. Not in any grand sense; it's not like we've been fighting dragons or juggling eggs, we'll save those fun activities for some other time; no, it's just been a little tricky.
"Today has been a tricky day. Not in any grand sense; it's not like we've been fighting dragons or juggling eggs, we'll save those fun activities for some other time; no, it's just been a little tricky.
I went back to work today, after being ill last week, and got myself all caught up. But my job means that, at this time of year, it is busy and pressured, and a missed day sets me back just too far. So instead of being off on leave tomorrow, like I'd planned, I decided that I'll need to go into work. And since neither set of Grandparents happen to be available for babysitting duties tomorrow, then our younger girl, still 3 years old, will be going to Nursery for an extra day.
I had to arrange that, last minute, at 4pm today. Luckily they have space for her.
Regular readers will already have guessed that I am feeling guilty that I won't be spending the day with her like I'd planned. But, although I feel guilty, I remind myself that my part-time, annualised hours, flexible working contract means that I will be off work for pretty much the whole of July and August. A contract like that is only possible when you ensure you meet the deadlines you are supposed to when you are there.
At the moment work is busy, meaning I get less time with the children. But I know I will make it up to them. And every day, when I pick them up from school and nursery at 3.15pm, I try and ensure to spend time with them then. To enjoy the evening with stories and lullabies and to balance the day.
It was a tricky day, because it felt like a tricky decision. But it wasn't really. It was a decision I'd actually made 2 years ago when I returned to work.
Working mums face this kind of decision every day. How do you get the right balance? How flexible are your employees?"
It was interesting to read back to this post, drafted over 6 months ago and never published, because this week I started back at work, in a new job, full time. Yes. Let me repeat that - FULL TIME!
The youngest isn't at school yet - that excitement will have to wait until September - but a brilliant opportunity came up and I went for it.
Interestingly I haven't felt particularly guilty this week. The eldest is absolutely thrilled at being able to stay at After School Club with her mates for an hour after school. On Thursdays I can now pick them up earlier, weirdly, as I'm not trying to shove work hours into fewer days, and the hubby has seen more of the girls and been able to attend his first parents evening.
All in all, going back full time seems to have forced us to create a better balance of childcare and be more organised on the logistics front (I already know at least 6 different routes to work, and have properly started meal planning, which is incredibly useful as it resulted in a slow-cookered meal being ready for us after work!)
And, I feel more like myself again. The intellectual challenge will mean that I sleep well!
So how do you manage working and parenting? Any tips? Feel free to share them below.
It was interesting to read back to this post, drafted over 6 months ago and never published, because this week I started back at work, in a new job, full time. Yes. Let me repeat that - FULL TIME!
The youngest isn't at school yet - that excitement will have to wait until September - but a brilliant opportunity came up and I went for it.
Interestingly I haven't felt particularly guilty this week. The eldest is absolutely thrilled at being able to stay at After School Club with her mates for an hour after school. On Thursdays I can now pick them up earlier, weirdly, as I'm not trying to shove work hours into fewer days, and the hubby has seen more of the girls and been able to attend his first parents evening.
All in all, going back full time seems to have forced us to create a better balance of childcare and be more organised on the logistics front (I already know at least 6 different routes to work, and have properly started meal planning, which is incredibly useful as it resulted in a slow-cookered meal being ready for us after work!)
And, I feel more like myself again. The intellectual challenge will mean that I sleep well!
So how do you manage working and parenting? Any tips? Feel free to share them below.
Well done! Part of me suspects that life could be easier with full-time work for the reasons you give. I would also have a cleaner and could be seriously considered for promotion. But there are too many things that crop up - too many reasons to go in late or leave early - that I know it's something I will never do.
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